A structured method in small steps to address and resolve conflicts using chairs.
As a coach or mediator it is sometimes difficult to work with people in conflict. With the small steps model SA-OS you will increasingly enjoy working with conflicts. For couples results lead to improved relationships. In work situations results lead to improved workflow, enhanced creativity, inspiration, joy and increased profits.
Participants will be alternating an observing position, while the other party is working. It will become clear how participants see each other and what really belongs to themselves and what belongs to the other. In short: fantasies about who the other is, are dismantled and steered in a positive direction.
General information for a series of 4 meetings:
Dates in 2022: Tuesdays – February 8, 15, 22 and March 1. Time: 3-7 pm CET.
Please indicate your interest by letting us know: firstname.lastname@example.org
Trainers: Ina Hogenboom (Coach, Trainer), Hannah Salomé (Coach, Trainer and Mediator) and Jacomien Ilbrink (Coach and Trainer).
Training: Simultaneous Action-Observer Strategy (SA-OS). Working in direct dialogue to find new answers in (conflicting) relationships.
SA-OS, a structured way of improving relationships. A method to bring clarity in the chaos and complexity of a conflict. Those involved will gain a better understanding of themselves and the other person, leading up to finding new ways of interacting with each other. The background of this method is the principle of thesis-antithesis-synthesis (Hegel). This dialogue happens within the individual as well as in the relationship. The SA-OS method helps people to widen their perspective, and increases understanding and appreciation between people.
Conflict: start or avoid the conflict?
Usually I avoid a conflict and avoid to say directly when I am angry or upset. However, sometimes I feel that it is necessary to express myself and that gives me the courage to start the conversation.
For example, I have a frightened, traumatized dog from Romania, fortunately she is doing very well. She is doing great and I am very proud of her. We live one block away from a forest with a great area where she can run free. Unfortunately to get there, I have to cross a busy road that lies in a slight curve. The house on the corner is being renovated, so very often there is a van on the driveway. It is not possible to see the traffic on the road as a pedestrian: the vans completely block the view. If my husband comes along, he stands a little more to the front to see what's coming. When I'm alone, that doesn't work, because I can't stand partly on the road to watch, because my little dog will freeze or want to flee and I can't go back. This forces me to stay on the sidewalk and I can't cross the road.
Role reversal with a cow
Cows, sheep, horses, swans, ducks, I always get very relaxed when I walk along the meadows. When the cow looks at me I think 'how would the cow see me'. I step into the role of the cow and look at myself. I see a person who is busy doing many nice things, but who also sometimes forgets to take a rest. I feel a kind of pitying, compassionate, thinking 'man, man, don't be so busy' and 'take it easy, enjoy where you are right now'.